What's on your mind?

Aww sorry to hear that Paulie. I'm glad you're fine though!

Oh nooo Paulie! I'm glad you and the other folks were uninjured. Maybe they were hiding drugs or been drinking or something for them not to want to call the cops.

People should have to retake the driver's test every couple years.

that would be very expensive for someone like me who has a CDL.  I can see where it has merits, but it doesn't stop people from driving drunk or stoned sadly :/


Miss you Joy! It's good to see you

Paulie. Sorry to hear about the accident. I'm glad that you are okey.

How do you make a group of people appear larger than it actually is? (how do you make a group of X people seem like there's 2X/3X people in said group)

TX_CO_Matt wrote:

How do you make a group of people appear larger than it actually is? (how do you make a group of X people seem like there's 2X/3X people in said group)

Have them all gain weight!

Strider1002 wrote:

TX_CO_Matt wrote:

How do you make a group of people appear larger than it actually is? (how do you make a group of X people seem like there's 2X/3X people in said group)

Have them all gain weight!

I'm being serious. How do you make a group of 10 people look like there's 20 or 30 in the group.

I'm glad you're okay Paul.

I just got frustrated with the book I'm reading. I've enjoyed the book so far, but this is like the third book in a row I've read where a "couple" kinda gets together, rather, they hint at it. They've barely known each other a week and share a "first-kiss", but she's not sure she wants to be with him. Then suddenly...they sleep together. out of the blue. I'm like   is that for real? I understand there are some people who are into one-night stands or whatever, but what is it about jumping into a sexual relationship that's "romantic"? It's not romantic at all!

People jump into sexual relationships a lot. Sad but true.

Awesome Sauce wrote:

I just got frustrated with the book I'm reading.  I've enjoyed the book so far, but this is like the third book in a row I've read where a "couple" kinda gets together, rather, they hint at it.  They've barely known each other a week and share a "first-kiss", but she's not sure she wants to be with him.  Then suddenly...they sleep together.  out of the blue.  I'm like   is that for real?  I understand there are some people who are into one-night stands or whatever, but what is it about jumping into a sexual relationship that's "romantic"?  It's not romantic at all!  

That's today's culture / media for you. If you're not sleeping together after you've seen them for two days, you're doing it wrong apparently.

Miss Spaulding wrote:

Awesome Sauce wrote:

I just got frustrated with the book I'm reading.  I've enjoyed the book so far, but this is like the third book in a row I've read where a "couple" kinda gets together, rather, they hint at it.  They've barely known each other a week and share a "first-kiss", but she's not sure she wants to be with him.  Then suddenly...they sleep together.  out of the blue.  I'm like   is that for real?  I understand there are some people who are into one-night stands or whatever, but what is it about jumping into a sexual relationship that's "romantic"?  It's not romantic at all!  

I understand the frustration. But like Spunk said, that's today's 'culture'. For people today, leaping into bed with someone only after knowing the person a few days (if even that) is simply a 'step' one takes to getting more involved with the person. No biggie.

Naturally that's how it'll go in a book. The overall view of 'love' in peoples' minds today is - sex. ...Sex is sex, but love...love is far deeper. Deeper than we can comprehend. Is sex an emotional act that occurs within true love? Absolutely, and rightly so. However, there is much more to love than just sex. That is my point. Nobody seems to understand this, or at least they don't want to try to understand it, afterall sex is the shortcut and certainly the most appealing at first glance.

Anyway. I'm so rambling right now. But again, I understand your frustration. 'Love' in books and movies is empty. It's never moving. The actual romance, the actual construction of the 'love' that slowly but surely is blossoming between the two characters is barely touched on, and all too often completely skipped over. *sigh* It's such a shame because that is the most beautiful (and important) part of it all.

One of the reasons I dont care for most of the new movies, shows etc.  It was still there in the older stuff to some degree of course but not near as blatant as today.

One of the themes of my book is that there's no rush to jump into bed together. So, yes, there is some sex... but I'm very careful not to condone it.

As Saucy mentioned the book he has been reading. It reminded me of a conversation I had with a co worker recently.

My co worker said to me "Well I know this girl she would be great for you, but she is 36 years old". I just smiled and gave a non answer primarily because hate the idea of being "Set up" by someone. So when I didn't give a straight yes or no answer to her, she started asking me if I had someone or if I liked someone. So I again gave her sort of a non answer talking about how I view relationships.

I said something along the lines of "To me you cant rush relationships. You got to take it slow because there is a big potential of people getting hurt. They should not be entered lightly and unless you are sure your personality and values match. The whole dating thing shouldn't even be considered"................... So my coworker says "Oh, so you mean dating that should lead to marriage".

I think her response speaks volumes at to how most view dating in todays culture. In my mind why would you date if your goal was not marriage? Yet, in most peoples mind dating is just this fun thing where you live in the Moment and enjoy the giddy feelings and when those feelings go away you break up.

But yeah im very much a weirdo in today's dating scene. But oh well, nothing wrong with being different.

We're all weirdos here, I expect

When a culture decides that evil is good, and good is evil then count me in for joining the Weirdo brigade.

People can judge me all they want, it won't change the fact that God is the ultimate judge in the end.

Apricity wrote:

Strider1002 wrote:

We're all weirdos here, I expect

 After reading Wannabe's post, I thought that same thing.

In my mind, there are two types of weird people though:

1). People who are out of sync with the culture (I consider this to be a good type of weird).  

2). Creepy people, those types who you can't trust.


All of you here seem to be that in my first category, which I don't consider to be weird myself, but to most people that might be.  haha
People in my second category I try avoiding at all costs.

Yeah I was thinking the same thing as well.
At least we can all be the awesome kind of weird together right? =)

There's probably a better verse somewhere but I was thinking about this one:
1 John 2:15-17 "Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For everything in the world-the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does-comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God lives forever."

wannaberocker wrote:

As Saucy mentioned the book he has been reading. It reminded me of a conversation I had with a co worker recently.

My co worker said to me "Well I know this girl she would be great for you, but she is 36 years old". I just smiled and gave a non answer primarily because hate the idea of being "Set up" by someone. So when I didn't give a straight yes or no answer to her, she started asking me if I had someone or if I liked someone. So I again gave her sort of a non answer talking about how I view relationships.

I said something along the lines of "To me you cant rush relationships. You got to take it slow because there is a big potential of people getting hurt. They should not be entered lightly and unless you are sure your personality and values match. The whole dating thing shouldn't even be considered"................... So my coworker says "Oh, so you mean dating that should lead to marriage".

I think her response speaks volumes at to how most view dating in todays culture. In my mind why would you date if your goal was not marriage? Yet, in most peoples mind dating is just this fun thing where you live in the Moment and enjoy the giddy feelings and when those feelings go away you break up.

But yeah im very much a weirdo in today's dating scene. But oh well, nothing wrong with being different.

I so agree. I couldn't have said it better myself. Why waste time getting your feelings hurt and creating emotional bonds with someone you don't intend to get married to? I think it's just a waste of time.

The sermon in our church was about singleness, while I did not agree with it entirely, I still applauded the fact they were able to give a positive message about being single, seems to be rare in my experience.
I was going to post it, but the podcast isn't up yet, but I'll post in the relationship thread whenever it's actually up.

RaiyuuDarling wrote:

wannaberocker wrote:

As Saucy mentioned the book he has been reading. It reminded me of a conversation I had with a co worker recently.

My co worker said to me "Well I know this girl she would be great for you, but she is 36 years old". I just smiled and gave a non answer primarily because hate the idea of being "Set up" by someone. So when I didn't give a straight yes or no answer to her, she started asking me if I had someone or if I liked someone. So I again gave her sort of a non answer talking about how I view relationships.

I said something along the lines of "To me you cant rush relationships. You got to take it slow because there is a big potential of people getting hurt. They should not be entered lightly and unless you are sure your personality and values match. The whole dating thing shouldn't even be considered"................... So my coworker says "Oh, so you mean dating that should lead to marriage".

I think her response speaks volumes at to how most view dating in todays culture. In my mind why would you date if your goal was not marriage? Yet, in most peoples mind dating is just this fun thing where you live in the Moment and enjoy the giddy feelings and when those feelings go away you break up.

But yeah im very much a weirdo in today's dating scene. But oh well, nothing wrong with being different.

I so agree. I couldn't have said it better myself. Why waste time getting your feelings hurt and creating emotional bonds with someone you don't intend to get married to? I think it's just a waste of time.

At least in my subculture, dating can often be synonymous with "hanging out". Often we'll call it "talking", but it looks similar to being on those first couple of dates, but they're not technically together or dating even though they are. Sometimes it won't blossom into a a relationship and sometimes it will, and there's really no set time either. We're often questioning of people who jump through this stage quickly. People that are friends first will skip this stage all together and go straight to being "official".

It works like this... (Guide to Early 20s Relationships)
Meet
Start talking and hanging out
You two start talking hanging out together with just each other. It's a friendship, but it's not about just being friends
You start going out on dates
You become boyfriend/girlfriend.

Where "dating" technically starts is really kind of hard to define for me. Really, when you start hanging out solely with each other is also when you start going to dates. It's not necessarily a blurred line between friendship and dating relationship, but it's just a hard to define line. If you asked me or most of my friends "At what point are a guy and a girl no longer 'just friends'?" we would give some sort of answer about physical contact (when you start holding hands together, after your first kiss, or even once you start dating). Dating should be for the purpose of finding the right person and not just "for fun", I agree don't really understand how why you should be cautious about creating emotional bonds like this? Yes, you can get hurt. How are you really going to know if you are if they who you want to marry if you aren't vulnerable?
There are two sayings that have become popular among my friends and I that have a similar message. "High risk, High reward" and "Go big or go home". I'm sorry, but I can't help but wonder, and I'm guilty of this as well if maybe part of the reason we're single is because we are too afraid of getting hurt we put ourselves out there. I'm not saying we should all just spill out our inner most feelings to everyone we develop feelings for, but I know several people in the past year that I could've dated but didn't for the sole reason of being afraid of getting hurt. I purposely sabotaged a date last year and convinced myself that I did everything on purpose so I wouldn't get hurt.